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World Cup 1994 will always live in my memory. That event has marked my whole life towards football. Although I only watched final match (between Brazil and Italia), I was so impressed. Since that day, I considered myself as a football lover.

At that time, girls who love football were considered as an abnormal girl, simply because in Indonesia almost people had never seen a girl play football. In reality, Indonesia had a famous football player, Muthia Datau. She was a goalkeeper of Indonesian national female football in 1980s. At that time Indonesia also had a female football league called “Galanita” (Liga Sepakbola Wanita / Female Football League)’

My parents knew my affection towards football. They didn’t prohibit me from watching football match but prohibited me from playing football with boys. The problem was that i didn’t have female friends who liked playing football. Many times, without my parents knowing, I played football with boys.

The boys didn’t mind if I joined them to play. They never mocked me. My teachers and my friends in junior high school also knew that I love football. Sadly, most of them who mocked me by calling me “tomboy” are female (friends and teachers). They couldn’t understand why a girl love football. They thought that football is a game exclusively for men. I told them that in Sweden, it is common for women to play football. Even Sweden has its female national team. I kept thinking why women can’t do what men can do. It was a unanswerable question for years.

When I studied in Faculty of Law, University of Indonesia, there was a sport competition and  indoor football was one of them. I was so happy because I could play it with female friends. Few of them even played indoor football when they were in senior high school. I always played as a goalkeeper, because I realized that I couldn’t dribble well. Being a goalkeeper is not easy. You shouldn’t be afraid of falling and you should be tough. I always enjoy being a goalkeeper until now.

In 2004 I took an interesting elective course called : “Women and Law”. I always feel lucky to take that course because it changed my life forever. In the course, I learnt a new word : “gender stereotype”. Males are expected to demonstrate certain characteristics and behaviours that are “masculine”, while females are responsible for being “feminine”. Traditionally, females have been expected to wear dresses, cook, clean, raise children, maintain a beautiful body, and remain passive. Female considered as a “weaker sex”, physically, mentally, and emotionally. This expectation of femininity often results in women being marginalized from participating and competing in physical activities, including football.

Society expects women to be “ladylike”, not demonstrate characteristics that are defined as being masculine. However, when women “cross the line” and exhibit these so-called masculinity, their gender identity, sexual orientation and behavior are often questioned. I felt empowered by taking the course. Finally, my question was answered. Since the day I took the course, I was proclaimed myself as a feminist.

In 2007, I joined a community of football fan called Milanisti Indonesia. I met some girls who are interested in playing indoor football. After that, we formed an indoor football team. We have participated in many friendly and official matches. Winning or not is not the main purpose. The most important is that we, as women, can play football without being stereotyped. Because football is universal , and has no gender, ethnic, or race.

Milanisti Indonesia in Indo Manchester United's tournamen (2009)

Milanisti Indonesia in Indo Manchester United’s tournamen (2009)

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Milanisti Angels , in a friendly match in 2009

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Bolanet futsal tournament, in 2012

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With the coach. Bolanet futsal tournament 2012

Myself as a goalkeeper, defended Arsenal Fan club futsal team.

Myself as a goalkeeper, defended Arsenal Fan club futsal team.

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I have been joining social media since 2004, when people started to have account in friendster. Since then, I met many new friends but I can’t count how many that I met. The first purpose of joining social media is to connect with friends, including old friends. The “other purpose” is to find new friends. Usually, I like meeting a new friends who share the same hobbies. However, I don’t rule out the possibility of meeting new friends who don’t share the same hobbies.

In December 2012, I met Sherlita, whom I know through twitter, in Cafe Pisa, Tebet. I followed her twitter because she had ever become a victim of police misconduct. She spoke out about her experience and even invited by a tv station to tell her story. Because I always be angry over injustice and mistreatement, I tried to ask her some question. Luckily, she didn’t mind to share it when we first met. She is smart, always has a lot of story, and a bit stubborn just like me 😀 .

Since that day we have met many times. The second meet up took place at Beer Garden, SCBD. At that meet-up, 2 friends of hers joined us. The last meet up with Sherlita was when we attended a “Peace March” in Bundaran Hotel Indonesia on July 2014. Here is the picture of our last meet up.

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