Category: daily life


Foto di atas saya ambil pada tanggal 10 Juni pada sore hari sepulang kantor. Ini adalah puncak kekesalan saya terhadap para pengendara sepeda motor yang tidak tahu diri. Ketika saya sedang berjalan di trotoar di Jalan Jenderal Sudirman, tiba tiba ada pengendara motor yang berkali kali membunyikan klakson. Saya terkejut ketika mendapati seorang pengendara motor yang berada tepat di belakang saya. Bukannya saya minggir, saya tetap berjalan santai dan sama sekali tidak memberikan ruang untuk si pengendara.

Setelah itu, saya mulai memarahinya. Saya bilang bahwa dia telah melanggar hak hak pejalan kaki. Saya juga bertanya apakah selama bersekolah dia diajarkan untuk menaati peraturan lalu lintas. Reaksi si pengendara : diam seribu bahasa. Mungkin karena terlalu kaget dan tidak menyangka akan “disemprot” oleh perempuan galak. Saya mengerti bahwa aksi marah saya menjadi tontonan orang. Saya pun tidak peduli. Sekali kali, galak itu memang perlu. Saya juga tidak segan segan “galak” terhadap ibu ibu yang pernah melanggar antrian ketika sedang menunggu bus transjakarta. Kadang saya kesal, mentang mentang usianya lebih tua dari saya, mungkin dia berpikir boleh melanggar antrian.

Dalam Undang-Undang Nomor 22 Tahun 2009 tentang Lalu Lintas dan Angkutan Jalan dalam pasal 106 poin 2 disebutkan bahwa: “Setiap yang mengemudikan kendaraan bermotor di jalan wajib mengutamakan keselamatan pejalan kaki dan pesepeda”. Lebih lanjut, dalam undang undang yang sama pada Pasal 284 yang berbunyi: “Setiap orang yang mengemudikan kendaraan bermotor dengan tidak mengutamakan keselamatan pejalan kaki atau pesepeda sebagaimana dimaksud dalam pasal 106 ayat (2), dipidana dengan pidana kurungan paling lama 2 (dua) bulan atau denda paling banyak Rp 500.000 (lima ratus ribu rupiah).”

Undang undangnya jelas berbunyi demikian tapi faktanya, polisi, yang seharusnya menindak, dengan memberikan surat tilang, seringkali mendiamkan hal itu. Saya jadi berpikir : pelanggaran HAM berat di negeri ini pun tidak diusut selama bertahun tahun, apalagi “cuma” pelanggaran terhadap hak-hak pejalan kaki. Di negeri ini , peraturan memang dibuat untuk dilanggar, bukan?

Kata-kata mantan walikota Bogota, Enrique Penalosa patut dicatat : “when you construct a good sidewalk, you are constructing democracy. A sidewalk is a symbol of equality”. Jadi, terbukti kan negara ini belum berdemokrasi….mungkin demorcrazy atau demorcrashit. FYI, sedikit cerita mengenai Penalosa dan opini saya mengenai trotoar dapat dilihat disini .


Every children need space to grow up and express themselves. One of the way to do it is by playing game. As a 1980s generation, I played many “traditional” games when I was a child. Most of them were played outdoor. Since I was a born until age of 7, I lived with my parents in my grandmother’s house. The house was large, it was 400 square feet. I could play anything without needing to go outside my house. At that time, my parents were not allowed me to play outside my house because there were so many motor vehicles around the street. My house was located near Jalan Utan Kayu, where many vehicles passing by.

Because my house was quite large, I could play anything inside. I used to play hide and seek with my brothers and friends. Other activities that we did was playing on the swing. I remember that there was a rambutan tree in my house. One day, I decided to make a wooden swing set by using rope and triplex. I tied the rope to rambutan tree and put the triplex as if it was a chair. Besides rambutans tree, we had guava, mango, and starfruit tree. My other activity was climbing trees to eat fruits. When I was hungry and my mother hadn’t finished cooked, I climbed a tree and ate fruit.

Unfortunately, in December 1990, the house was sold and we moved to Pondok Gede. There, we rented a house for 1 year until finishing our own house construction. The house was located in an alley, well, not a small one but it was safe to play outside. What I did in my leisure time was playing “benteng” with my neighbors, Reni and Ricky, who lived in front of my house.

A year after that, we moved to our own house. I had new friends and did lot of activities outside. I could said that every day, from 4 to 6 pm, I went to a small court to play badminton, basketball or volleyball, and sometimes football. If I didn’t want to play outside because of one and other reasons, I played monopoly or chess. And sometimes I played football with my brothers in terrace. Besides playing sports, I also caught guppy fish (in Indonesian : “ikan cere”) in gutter.

How about now? Well to be honest, I almost never seen children playing traditional game. Perhaps the main reason is the effect of modern games such as PlayStation and gadgets. I wouldn’t say that they are useless but in my opinion, children should spend more time outside the house.

Other factors that trigger this situation is lack of open space such as parks. For example, how many property developer that commit to provide park for residences? And how many public parks built by city government? I remember a scene in “Garuda di Dadaku” the movie. Some boys played football in a cemetery because there are no football field near their house. It’s a sad reality, isn’t it?

Some experts said that there’s a growing evidence that park environments play a unique role in promoting stress and alleviating stress. It has been shown that communities without parks, particularly in economically disadvantaged areas, have unhealthier children. Research indicates that communities without parks and playgrounds often lead to sedentary children and stressful lives.

Well, now it’s the time for city government to rethink about the future of children by fulfilling children’s right to play, by giving them access to open space. Parents also should encourage their children to do healthier activities.

By reading the title you will know that I consider sports as one of the most important things in my life. Well, honestly, i don’t exaggerate it. I feel guilty if don’t exercise. When I was a child, I had a dream to become a badminton player but unfortunately my parents weren’t allow me. And then i developed my interest in football (you can see my blog about how I developed my interest in football ) and even i work sports industry since 2013. People often think that those who work in sports media absolutely like doing sports, but in reality, not all. The reason is because they don’t have time although I think it’s merely a justification. 😀 . You can do exercise in a simple way, for example : walking. In the next paragraph I will explain more about what I do to maintain my health :

1. Walking

WALKINGI really love walking if it’s possible. Since I was child, my father always tell me that walking is important for our health. When I was 5 years old, my father asked me to join him to walk from our house in Utan Kayu (East Jakarta)  to my aunt’s house in Pondok Gede. Can you all imagine that? The distance was 15 km and I forgot how many hours we need to arrive there. I was mad at that time because it was very far. My father sometimes carried me and my brother- alternately- on his back. Until now I don’t know why I participated in my father’s crazy idea.

When I was in junior high school, I walked from my school to my house. The distance was approximately 2 km. There was a reason behind the decision to walk to my house. At that time, I didn’t want to be picked by carpool because i wanted to be free. If I would have been picked by carpool, I hadn’t have time to socialize with my friends because I should go home on time. A few years later, when i was in senior high school, I used to walk from my school to the main street (approximately 1,5 km) to save my money because my parents gave me a very limited amount of money.

My tendency to walk for a short distance has helped me a lot, especially when i travelled to other country. When I visited Kuala Lumpur, Singapore, and Mexico City, I walked much because they have good sidewalk. Here, in Jakarta, I started to walk more in February 2013. At that time, I work in Pluit (North jakarta). The distance from transjakarta bus station to my office was 1 km. Many people took motorcycle taxi (a.k.a “ojek” )  but I didn’t want to because it was expensive (10000 rupiahs). Well, if the price were not expensive, I wasn’t interested too because i would prefer to walk. In total, when i worked in Pluit, I walked 3,5 kms a day.  I consist of walking from transjakarta bus station to my office, back and forth, and also walking from my house to the main street, back and forth, too.

Consequently, my tendency brought positive thing : I lost weight. From February 2013 to November 2014, I lost 9kgs. Many people asked me if I underwent strict diet. Well it’s impossible for me who love chocolate to do that 😀 :D. Right now, I no longer work in Pluit but I still walk (minimum) 3kms on weekedays.

2. Jogging

I feel guilty because i have skipped jogging for more than 1 months because of rainy day. I should also confess that I often skip jogging because I wake up very late because of watching football match :D. Usually I used to go jogging 4 times a week in the morning for 30 minutes.

3. Cycling

Since the rise of fuel price increase, i decided to ride my bicycle to the transjakarta bus station. But then again, raining and football matches prevents me from doing that. I hope I can do it again soon. For your information, I used to join bicycle touring with my cyclist friends but has been 2,5 years since the last time I did it. At that time, we went to Sawarna beach from Rangkasbitung (129 km). To go to Rangkasbitung, we took train and brought our bicycle inside. Here’s some picture on our activities.

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4. Badminton and Tennis

I have badminton 2 badminton rackets and 1 tennis racket. The main problem is to be able to play those sports, I need a friend. Right now, it is very hard to find a friend who has time to play it. Well, are any of you interested to join me ?

5. Indoor Football

You can find how I developed my interest in indoor football in this article . It has been more than 6 months since the last time I played indoor football. Because it is a sport which only could be played by 10 person, i should depend on my friend’s schedule. Here was one of my pictures when i played indoor football :


When the admin of this group announced that we should write about fashion, I was confused because I don’t consider myself as a fashionable. As for me, being fashionable needs a lot of money. Honestly, I almost never buy new clothes if I don’t really need it. I buy more books than clothes 😀 . But if you ask me what kind of clothes I wear to go to the office, i could show you my very casual outfit.

This picture was taken on 8 March 2015 at Bundaran HI. I was there to take picture of protest against gender discrimination.

This picture was taken on 8 March 2015 at Bundaran HI. I was there to take picture of protest against gender discrimination.

So, here is the detail of my outfit :

  • T-shirt reading “Sister in Danger” , bought from “Simponi” – an indie band that campaign for social issues , particulary on anti corruption and eradication of gender violence. If you care to support the movement, you could contact them to buy this t-shirt (if available) : @simponii at twitter or e-mail to
  • Jeans , bought at Matahari Department Store Pondok Gede
  • Backpack , bought at Ramayana Department Store, Taman Mini Square
  • Sunglasses, bought at Rodalink Kalimalang, Bekasi
  • Diadora shoes, bought at Sport Station , Taman Mini Square

I am sure that many of you wonder why I always wear this kind of outfit. First, I work in a sport media and our boss allows us to wear casual outfit. In reality, most of sport media worker wear casual outfit, not only in my office. Second, everyday I take transjakarta bus. Sometimes, the air conditioner inside the bus doesn’t function well that’s why I need to wear comfortable clothes. And the last, sport shoes prevent me from being stepped on when I stand inside the bus and also make me comfortable while walking.

World Cup 1994 will always live in my memory. That event has marked my whole life towards football. Although I only watched final match (between Brazil and Italia), I was so impressed. Since that day, I considered myself as a football lover.

At that time, girls who love football were considered as an abnormal girl, simply because in Indonesia almost people had never seen a girl play football. In reality, Indonesia had a famous football player, Muthia Datau. She was a goalkeeper of Indonesian national female football in 1980s. At that time Indonesia also had a female football league called “Galanita” (Liga Sepakbola Wanita / Female Football League)’

My parents knew my affection towards football. They didn’t prohibit me from watching football match but prohibited me from playing football with boys. The problem was that i didn’t have female friends who liked playing football. Many times, without my parents knowing, I played football with boys.

The boys didn’t mind if I joined them to play. They never mocked me. My teachers and my friends in junior high school also knew that I love football. Sadly, most of them who mocked me by calling me “tomboy” are female (friends and teachers). They couldn’t understand why a girl love football. They thought that football is a game exclusively for men. I told them that in Sweden, it is common for women to play football. Even Sweden has its female national team. I kept thinking why women can’t do what men can do. It was a unanswerable question for years.

When I studied in Faculty of Law, University of Indonesia, there was a sport competition and  indoor football was one of them. I was so happy because I could play it with female friends. Few of them even played indoor football when they were in senior high school. I always played as a goalkeeper, because I realized that I couldn’t dribble well. Being a goalkeeper is not easy. You shouldn’t be afraid of falling and you should be tough. I always enjoy being a goalkeeper until now.

In 2004 I took an interesting elective course called : “Women and Law”. I always feel lucky to take that course because it changed my life forever. In the course, I learnt a new word : “gender stereotype”. Males are expected to demonstrate certain characteristics and behaviours that are “masculine”, while females are responsible for being “feminine”. Traditionally, females have been expected to wear dresses, cook, clean, raise children, maintain a beautiful body, and remain passive. Female considered as a “weaker sex”, physically, mentally, and emotionally. This expectation of femininity often results in women being marginalized from participating and competing in physical activities, including football.

Society expects women to be “ladylike”, not demonstrate characteristics that are defined as being masculine. However, when women “cross the line” and exhibit these so-called masculinity, their gender identity, sexual orientation and behavior are often questioned. I felt empowered by taking the course. Finally, my question was answered. Since the day I took the course, I was proclaimed myself as a feminist.

In 2007, I joined a community of football fan called Milanisti Indonesia. I met some girls who are interested in playing indoor football. After that, we formed an indoor football team. We have participated in many friendly and official matches. Winning or not is not the main purpose. The most important is that we, as women, can play football without being stereotyped. Because football is universal , and has no gender, ethnic, or race.

Milanisti Indonesia in Indo Manchester United's tournamen (2009)

Milanisti Indonesia in Indo Manchester United’s tournamen (2009)


Milanisti Angels , in a friendly match in 2009


Bolanet futsal tournament, in 2012


With the coach. Bolanet futsal tournament 2012

Myself as a goalkeeper, defended Arsenal Fan club futsal team.

Myself as a goalkeeper, defended Arsenal Fan club futsal team.

I have been joining social media since 2004, when people started to have account in friendster. Since then, I met many new friends but I can’t count how many that I met. The first purpose of joining social media is to connect with friends, including old friends. The “other purpose” is to find new friends. Usually, I like meeting a new friends who share the same hobbies. However, I don’t rule out the possibility of meeting new friends who don’t share the same hobbies.

In December 2012, I met Sherlita, whom I know through twitter, in Cafe Pisa, Tebet. I followed her twitter because she had ever become a victim of police misconduct. She spoke out about her experience and even invited by a tv station to tell her story. Because I always be angry over injustice and mistreatement, I tried to ask her some question. Luckily, she didn’t mind to share it when we first met. She is smart, always has a lot of story, and a bit stubborn just like me 😀 .

Since that day we have met many times. The second meet up took place at Beer Garden, SCBD. At that meet-up, 2 friends of hers joined us. The last meet up with Sherlita was when we attended a “Peace March” in Bundaran Hotel Indonesia on July 2014. Here is the picture of our last meet up.

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